Its hard to recognize anything about yourself and others when you have little knowlege on wat your going through. However, when you come out of a relationship that left you with painful feelings and ideas, they often the things overshadow the truth. I believe we can find the love we search for when we look at what we gave in the relationship emotional, spiritually, and physically. If you planeted good you will find appreciation for yourself first and then the other person because you learned what you needed to understand from the experience and after all the negative is cleared you may find that you were loved. What a wonderful thing to know that you were loved because you gave love!